The snobby side of parenting
Being a SAHM were the best years for me, but undoubtedly the busiest!
Whispers, what if you do all of this AND have a full-time job? Is there a prize??
Hear hear, Clemette.... I don't argue being a SAHM is hard going (I do both, work part time) but unless you have little eleves that do it in the night most of those things are done by 'EMPLOYED' mothers too.
i do all of that plus work 45-50 hours a week. PUH-Leez.. where's MY prize?????
You do all that in the same amounts a SAHM does? You have as much commitment to these things as a SAHM? Or is employment prioritized?
I feel like this could have been done better. Most of these things aren't even done on a weekly basis. I'm a working mom and I think this just makes SAHMs look bad, when the ones I know are too effing busy to hassle the government or fund-raise. You want to know what a SAHM does all day, you talk to my neighbor about how she cleans the chicken coop and mucks the meat rabbit house at 4am in -10F weather before her kids wake up so that she has time to shovel her husband's truck out of the snow before starting breakfast.
Yes, yes, and yes; no amount of glorifying, amplifying and self-deluding will change the fact that working mothers work MUCH harder. I prioritise employment AND my family, you only do half as much. The difference is, you stretch each task to fill the time available.
For the vast majority, being a SAHM is a luxurious choice, available only to a subset of very privileged women. It means less work, less stress, less pressure, more leisure, and a more relaxed and casual pace of life. SAHMs know this, which is why they get so defensive and bleat about people not recognising the hard work they do and their marvellous contribution to society. Guess what, it's not society's job to validate your choice or make you feel less of a scrounger! The rest of us are too busy to fret about people not thinking we are busy enough. We haven't the time to blog about how bloody hard we work! I have been at home, worked part time, and worked full time. The first was the easiest, the second was harder, and the last is by far the hardest.