If you’re been alive for the fast five or so years, you may have noticed something peculiar: the emergence of a new zeitgeist of contempt for breastfeeding. Even a cursory look at the lifestyle section of many online newspapers reveals a contemporary back-catalogue now groaning under the weight of the collective bitching of a vocal minority of failed breastfeeders. In...
I am often asked: Why do formula feeders frequent breastfeeding sites? Why do they trawl through breastfeeding-related discussions only to declare that the process made them feel guilty? Why would a grown adult put themselves in this situation, a situation which is clearly triggering? In this post, I’ll explain the reason behind this bizarre phenomenon. I'm talking about the...
Giving birth prematurely can provoke feelings of maternal inadequacy. The guilt of one’s inability to carry the pregnancy to full term is confounded by the fact that there is very little Mom can do to help her baby while he is confined to the NICU. Is it any wonder that mothers of preemies typically feel like helpless outsiders deferring...
lactation consultant
Lactation Consultants are fairy godmothers devoted to mothers and babies, appearing out of nowhere at the crack of a broken nipple or the click of a bad latch, they sprinkling pixie dust upon mothers' nursing dreams. When they impart their wisdom, their words weave a whimsical spell, furnishing a happily ever after for mom and baby. . Back in the...
In our increasingly desensitized society, advertisers have to push mainstream boundaries in order to achieve an impact; And whose buttons are better to push than parents? We’re plentiful, we spend lots of money, and we’re soppy sods. The following are genuine advertisements. 1. Every child needs a family. UNICEF Croazia. 2. I wish we never had children. What you say during divorce lasts forever. SIRE: Elliot. 3. Children...
Parenting – It’s Not All About You
You see the world from your own perspective – of course you do. What can be harder to recognise is that not everyone else does. When you’re a child, most of the people in your world are focused on you most of the time. When you’re two, for example, you can scream when you’re hungry and someone will produce...
The Daily Mail suggested it was 'horrifying'. The BBC called it 'extreme'. Yet no health agency puts a formal upper limit on the age beyond which it is appropriate or desirable to breastfeed. With the natural spacing between children being 3 years, if we followed our biological imperative, we would all be tandem nursing! But what are the downsides? It can...
It sucks being a parent sometimes. Negotiating the minefield of toy-choices is a responsibility that lasts your child's entire childhood; and if you have several kids, well, you're pretty much destined to screw up along the way. The vast majority of toys on the market today are big on bells and whistles but small on creativity. Modern toys can...
Nipple shields – friend or foe? They are often touted as a ‘necessary purchase’, but perhaps we should be paying more attention to just who is doing the suggesting. Nipple shields are artificial nipples worn over the mother’s nipple during breastfeeding. Modern nipple shields are made of soft, thin, flexible silicone and have holes at the end of the nipple section to...
Whilst indulging my inner bookworm at the local city library, I unwittingly stumbled upon a book written by a man called Geert Hofstede. Hofstede is an influential Dutch researcher well-known (in the social-psychology clique at least) for his research of cross-cultural groups and organizations. He played a major role in developing a framework for assessing and differentiating national cultures....